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Online Dating Guide For Men

In today’s world meeting new people has become easier and definitely more interesting. Now you are more likely to meet someone nearer to the individual’s requirement list. In this world of progressive computer technology and net – savvy people, the latest trend of meeting new people is through online dating. In this you can avoid repetitions and you can also save yourself from peer pressure of asking someone out only to get rejected after a drink maybe. In online dating you can know someone through their profiles and later on if you are confident enough you can start chatting with them and then finally ask them out on an actual date.

Now here are a few tips to help you with dating the right women:

· The first task is to choose the right dating service website. Each website specializes in different aspects of dating. For instance, some are for Asians, where you can date Asian ladies. Pick the one that fits you and verify its reliability from your friends and family. There are some websites which are filled with fake, erotic profiles but they are just a waste of time.

· Do not rush. Exactly like real life you should not rush with things in online dating too. Do not try to act smart to someone and ask them to meet right away. You should first build up a connection through chatting online and then ask out for a date.

· Do not trust the person totally. You should not believe him or her blindly whatever she is saying.

· Make your profile attractive but you should not overdo it as it will give an impression to girls that you are trying too hard, rather quite desperate! So put a decent picture of yours and update the profile with genuine information.

How to be Successful with Online Dating:

Here are some tips on how to succeed with this whole online dating experience.

· For dating women show your best side through your profile. In your profile talk about your qualities and interesting hobbies and passions. Do not write about your infirmities in your profile. Your profile should send a positive vibe and be upbeat.

· While making contact with someone, you should keep things real but stay positive at the same time. While dating a woman you have keep in mind not to be a question bank.

· Do not move too fast. Women find guys rushing to be cheesy and try to avoid them instead. Girls like guys who go with the right pace. First chat with her for quite some times online, and then when you find her interested too, ask for her phone number, then talk through phone regularly and then finally decide to go a real offline date.

· Dress according to the place where you are taking the girl out for the first date. Try to look presentable and decent. Everyone likes good looks and girls like taking pride in their partner’s looks. This is one of the keys to dating women successfully.

· Be simple and confident on your first date. Do not plan on spending the whole day out, and instead plan something short and simple. For example, you guys can meet over a cup of coffee at some cafe so that you guys can part ways if things do not work out, and if things seem good then you can think of going for a movie.

· Keep a check on your personal hygiene. You should be clean in your dressing and your nails, hair and shoes should also be properly polished and good. Females have a thing of knowing a gentleman through their shoes.

· Do not expect sex on the very first date. If you looking for the girl of your dreams, the sexiest thing is to be patient. This is one way to succeed in dating a woman.

· Be a good listener and treat the girl with all the due respect. They might bore you but you should listen to them anyone if you want to impress her. Remembering what she said will impress her even more.

Just keep these basic tips in mind and see how it works magic in your online dating

Tips For Online Dating Success & Happiness

Online dating guides are everywhere these days and following closely behind are commercial online dating websites determined to suck you in and take your money leaving you with nothing at the end of it but a low self-esteem.

The worst thing is, you can easily fall prey and get hooked with online dating and end up spending way too much time on these websites, trawling through the countless number of profiles and photographs. The real truth of it all is that (and you can ask anyone who has been through it), the majority of people never find love through the internet. You do have a very small minority who “get lucky” but most people just end up wasting a lot of money, and most importantly..time. Time which you could have spend joining a club or a dancing class (for instance) to find real people whom you can connect with.

However, if you are really hard-headed with going with the online dating route, some advise is in order:

First of all, do not spend too much time on it. Spend a maximum of a few minutes a day sending out private messages or e-mails, and try to make contact with potential dates. Most of you have a full-time job so don’t risk your job by spending the whole day on dating sites – keep things in perspective!

Most dating websites will require you to put in profile data so others can find you. A mistake made by most people is that they put in way too much information about themselves which is unnecessary. Not only is it unnecessary, the more information you provide, the poorer the impression you will create.

Put down only a few critical details about yourself like your age, location, background and one or two hobbies. Keep other details like your job vague. It is true in real life dating as well as online dating that people want to slowly “discover” little things about a potential mate, rather than having everything served up on a platter right at the start. Start with the entree, move to the main course, and end with desert (the best part)!

Be enthusiastic with your written profiles and most importantly with your contact messages. Both men and women prefer an up-beat person compared to a neutral or depressed sounding one. If someone asks you “Hi John, how are you?”, rather than reply with “I’m good thanks”..try “I’m feeling fantastic!”. By doing so, you already put yourself way ahead of the competition.

If you find someone you’re interested in, and the feeling is mutual, it’s best to set up a quick meeting with that person. Keep it brief (no longer than an hour or so). This date is for the sole purpose of you finding out more bit of information that is lacking from your online encounters. It will also allow you to decide whether you want to go ahead and see that person more or not, giving you a chance to back out easily. Meet that person for a quick coffee at a busy and central place. You’ll be sure to discover things about your date that you might have overlooked at the online dating website.

Exclusive Dating Services

Imagine setting out to accomplish anything and what possible chance do you have of accomplishing anything if you firmly believed it was a lost cause. The only way you will never meet your life partner is if you are determined not to. The myth that “all the good ones are taken” is exactly that – a myth. Another falsehood I frequently hear is that there are no decent ways or places to meet people. Use a corporate or professional dating service.

I do believe you can get into the main stream of dating and by doing that join a dating agency, but I do find so many give up before they have even begun. We all know dating can be daunting or perhaps you may feel insecure or you may have lost your confidence which was destroyed in a previous relationship. You may have felt like a failure? There could be many, many reasons why you are out of the main stream of dating. Do not despair and do not give up.

The first thing is to adopt a positive attitude and change your mindset and with that you are not alone. In order for anything to be successful and positive in your life you need to take action. It is the same with meeting the right person take action and join a dating agency that will help you through the process.

With an exclusive dating service ideally you should be looking for a life partner. Be serious and look for a quality relationship with the right person and join the right dating agency there is no easier way than to have a leap of faith and join one of South Africa’s exclusive dating agencies “The Only Social Club”. It is a service that has various single’s as signed up members that have been personally screened to help you find your life partner E.G, Christian Dating, Muslim Dating, Jewish dating, Asian Dating and many, many more. If you in the single’s market and are looking for a professional dating service a service which embodies Integrity and Confidentiality which is a way for South Africans to find true love then look no further. We would love to welcome you aboard.

Before you join think of how you are going to present yourself to be included in a professional dating agency start by writing a profile on yourself and list all the attributes about yourself that you can come up with. It’s a great exercise in getting to know yourself better and it’s also fun. Once you have completed that start a second one, where you outline what you are looking for in a relationship or in a new partner. Be open, be reasonable and most important be serious about what you want and make it realistic. First write down everything and then file it down to what really counts and works for you.

With some pre-work done, having prepared yourself for becoming a member of a dating agency open the webpage for “The Only Social Club” fill in the join form and send it off. After that you are in good hands and will be contacted by the dedicated staff re further action to find that someone special.

Professional Dating Services

We all know that having someone to share the ups and downs with – the things that are part and parcel of life – makes life all the more fulfilling and complete, yet when one considers that the current economic climate is putting pressure on people to work harder than ever, coupled with the fact that Gauteng is a fast-paced and highly driven, corporate province, it is no surprise that young, ambitious people are struggling to find the time to get out there and socialise in the hope of meeting that special someone. Those ‘chance encounters’ are just all too rare. Here is where a professional matchmaker can help. A professional matchmaker, part of the dating services provided by various companies, takes the struggle of meeting that someone special out of your hands by supplying the practical assistance of navigating you towards like-minded people.

These companies take the time to understand its member’s personalities, backgrounds and relationship goals, so that it may achieve professional introductions that result in rewarding relationships, as a result of uniting both desirable and like-minded singles. In this way, these companies take away the intimidation that is experienced by so many about meeting that person who is compatible with you.

We all know that that first date can be an intimidating prospect, but these companies will provide you with some helpful dating tips, as well as assisting you in coordinating your first date; services that are sure to put you at ease.  As a result of these companies effort to introduce you to potential long-term partners that meet agreed-upon criteria, dating in Gauteng becomes an adventure instead of something to be feared.

The complete package that is offered to you by these companies will put you solidly on the road to meeting that potential partner, and hopefully igniting that long-term love.

How to Avoid Awkward Silences on a First Date

Ah, the First Date, and its companion, the Awkward Silence—it was weird enough when we were 16, wasn’t it? And now? Though the first date has become a sort of rite of passage for us seniors who find ourselves alone, it still looms as a hurdle to be crossed. Is this the first date of several, or your very first date after a relationship has ended? It doesn’t matter-it’s still weird in any case. I know this because I have been there. After two years of being a widow, I began again at 63, feeling very odd indeed.

There I was looking into the mirror before the evening began. I’d picked out my clothes and my shoes, and I was giving myself the once-over before leaving the safety of my home. Suddenly I was aware of my every skin tag, every age spot, every wrinkle and bulge. Where did that extra chin come from?? Who WAS that woman looking back at me?

What on earth was I going to say to this man? I pulled away from the mirror in despair and began. It was the best thing I’d done for myself in a very long time.

There are several “most-feared moments” on a first date, one of which is the Awkward Silence. The Awkward Silence is a dreadful creature. It lurks about under chairs and behind curtains, waiting for its moment to leap out and place its bulk between you and your date. It is hungry and wants attention. Awkward Silence whispers to you of all your flaws, all your history that went wrong, any sense of failure you may have. What to do about it?

Here are some tips:

Knowledge is your best weapon. Some basic facts about the Awkward Silence: The Awkward Silence grows fat on fear and self-doubt. It wallows in how little you know of the other person, and it craves your lack of curiosity. Your best approach is to become its hunter, the one who tracks it first. Remember, as any good hunter will tell you, success is not to be found in filling the silence with chatter. Success is found by opening the door to the other person. Do this with questions and comments that bring about true conversation, something the Awkward Silence avoids.

Curiosity and conversation send it running. When the Awkward Silence tries to settle in between you and your First Date, simply acknowledge its presence in your mind, and begin the hunt. Seduce it with a little time as you remember your date. You can remember that this person you are with is about as old as you are, has spent the same frightening moment in front of a mirror, and fears Awkward Silence as much as you do. This man has lived a long time, has had many ups and downs, and has known loss and success. He has stories he’d like to tell. Now you can send Awkward Silence back under the chair!

First: Print this list and keep it in your purse. A woman can always excuse herself for a moment and do a quick review in the lady’s room! Then:

    • You can find out more about your First Date. Some questions you may ask (pick one and see what happens): When was the first time he realized he was a separate being from his birth family? How long was the longest truly happy time in his life and what was he doing then? How did he get himself through a really tough time in his life? Given means and opportunity, what would he do now, and why? (Long term or short term) Who were his heroes as a child and why? Who are his heroes now, and why? (If he’s retired) What were his thoughts on retiring? How has it affected his life? Has it changed the way he relates to his other family members? (If he is looking at retirement) what are his thoughts? How is he preparing for it?
    • You can tap into what you are doing on your first date and examine how you feel about it. Some questions you may ask: I’m really glad to be here because (….) how are you feeling about it? (Especially in an ethnic restaurant) What experiences has he had with this culture? How were those experiences different from what he’d know before? How did he find this restaurant?
    • You can remember what was said earlier in the evening, comment on it in order to pursue the topic: You mentioned earlier (….) and I was wondering (what that was like for you, what sorts of things did you have to know about to do that, when did you realize that it was about to change…etc)
  • You can let Awkward Silence turn its face to him for a while. See what he does. Who is he under a little pressure?

Second: (Maybe in the lady’s room) Listen to yourself. Is this Awkward Silence trying to tell you something? Is this a man you have any real interest in? If not-you can relax, have a nice evening and call it good. Perhaps it looms as a very unpleasant evening, in which case you can call it off right there. (I recommend separate cars for a true first date. The safety margin is very comforting.)

In any case, you are who you are, and he is who he is. We seniors are old enough to be clear and straightforward. We’ve earned the right. A relaxed and pleasant time is within reach for those of us who want to know about one another, and who are willing to be honest about ourselves. Happy times are easy to be had, so don’t be shy!

Senior Dating Tips

Only the young, are not entitled to date. Those of the “third” age are just as entitled, more so, because at that point in life, they find themselves single and alone again after divorces or through widowhood.The important thing is that both young and mature are finding that when it comes to dating, the Internet can be quite useful and very practical. Since the websites know that the “third” age generation is living quite long, they have created dating websites for these citizens, so that no one is left out of the loop.

Safety is a big concern for anyone who is considering using the Internet as a means to meet people. Senior daters have to be equally careful if not more so than younger ones because there are too many people willing to take advantage of seniors. Scams are directed towards anyone out there, but the elderly are particularly vulnerable, and they know it. Those who target seniors will have an easy time posing as someone else on the Internet to gain their trust, hoping to eventually gain access to their bank account. Mature daters need to acknowledge this risk and thread carefully.

The majority of online dating websites have features in place to ensure the safety and comfort of their users. Since websites don’t do background checks, it will be impossible to verify the vital statistics of the person you are communicating with. But if the dating website has no specific user rules in place, move on to another dating website that does.

For senior daters who have been out of the dating loop for a while, they might need a bit of help setting up their dating profile so that they get maximum exposure from others looking for the same type of relationship who also have the same interests. Most, if not all online dating websites have tips on how to write a good dating profile. Be sure to include all your interests so that potential matches able to see if there are any common interests between you.

Approach the dating scene with a light heart and the idea that you are doing it to have fun. Start off by meeting, chatting on line, exchanging emails and even having camera chats, you’ll probably enjoy the experience. You will probably find someone you hit it off with, and that would be great. Everyone deserves to be happy, regardless of their age.

Avoid The Pitfalls of Single Parent Online Dating

Online dating for the single parent can be really tough. There are lots of things to consider when you are a single parent. Things the average person doesn’t have to deal with. This problem is even worse when you are dating online because things typically move faster online. Having time to date is a huge hurdle. Being able to date without exposing your child to negative people is a concern. Taking time away from your child to date can make you feel guilty.

Time management is out the window when you have a 3-year old! It seems no matter what you try to do the child always has other plans for you. The bad news is that it gets worse when they are teenagers. The good news is you can still plan events of importance into your schedule. Ultimately its all about priorities. While your child is your number one priority you need to realize that having a successful romantic relationship is a very important priority as well. This may mean finding another babysitter you can trust. It may mean calling on friends more often.

Lets face it not every date is a great date. In fact most of the dates you go on will be with people you may just want to be friends with or even less. That being said its important that you not expose your child to multiple people coming in and out of their life. So how do you do that? One good tip is that you always try to meet your date at a public place. This doesn’t have to go on forever. A good rule is that you can bring them around after you have been seeing them for a month.

There are a million things in life that can make us feel guilty. Yet nothing makes us feel guilty like our kids can. While you were off on a date your little girl scraped her knee. All you can think about is “if I were only here!” Stop, take a break! If you were there she would have probably still scraped her knee. Now that you are there show her affection, care for her. Don’t neglect your children for a romantic night, but don’t beat yourself up over the small stuff either.

As you can see there are some ways you can date while being a single parent. Online dating can be a fun, exciting, fulfilling way to increase your odds at having a great romantic life. You can do this without having a schedule that stresses you out, while not exposing your child to risky people, and not giving yourself a guilt trip for every date you go on.